Necessity of Support for Young Adult Survivors |
Vik Bubber & Daralynn Walker |
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Vancouver, Canada |
Reprint of a power-point presentation held at the Vancouver conference September 2005
Issues
for life, love and happiness get more complicated for a young adult who has
survived cancer. Once a childhood cancer patient becomes an adult they fall into
a dark gap with very little support. Just as children, young adults should be
given the opportunity to explore potentials and search for their identity.
Support
is a fundamental part of the healing process which allows for mental and
emotional wounds to heal.
As
we leave high school and pursue further education at college or university, we
try and think about goals and our future:
Which career?
Relationships?
Independence?
There
are numerous ways of support:
Camp/Retreat
(Peer Support)
• Meeting is more concentrated
• Not as frequent
Support Group
(Peer Support)
• Meeting is topic centralized
• More frequent
Doctors
• Not always supportive
• Shouldn’t be hindering about prognosis
Family & Friends
• Not always understanding
• Ultimately support you or leave you
God & Faith
• Belief in God strengthened
• Lose faith in God
Most
Effective Method: Peer Support
One
survivor to another can discuss on a much deeper level than from just talking
with family or friends.
Young
adults should have the ability to share about personal topics or emotional
frustrations without worrying about persecution.
Recreational camps provide facilities and means by which survivors can safely provide support to each other in a nurturing environment.
Pros & Cons of camp/retreat:
Pros:
The camp atmosphere allows for challenges to be conquered and new important
friendships to be made.
Life changing experience and memories which last a lifetime.
Helps survivors escape from the stress and tension of day to day life.
Campers have to deal with possible emotional repercussions after coming home.
Communication between friends can fade as distance separates campers
Resources needed for a camp:
1.
Location:
Should be in a remote but serene place
Accommodating to needs of campers.
2.
Funding:
Food, lodging and transportation.
Budget for activities
and supplies.
3.
Facilitators:
Should be aware and understanding of campers needs
Should be outgoing yet
emotionally stable.
4.
Participants:
Should be medically sound enough to attend
Any survivor or patient should be welcome to attend.
The following campers' quotes summarize the importance of these camps:
“Camp made me a stronger individual.”
“At home, I tend to put on a fake
mask to make it easier for others, but at camp I don’t wear a mask.”
“ I made lifelong friends in a
relaxed and accepting environment.”
“Everybody I’ve met at camp is so
open and understanding.”
“Other survivors don’t make me
feel so alone.”
“There was no pressure to do
anything I didn’t feel comfortable doing.”
“Camp was definitely a positive
experience and I would recommend it to others.”
Conclusion
Individuality can be defined through any event we encounter between the ages of 13 - 25. Anything which affects us emotionally or psychologically during this time can help us gain more control over our life. The impact we can have on one person can help change their lives forever. Medicine and treatment may help remove cancer but only continued support from others will help a cancer survivor to survive.
Vik
Bubber & Daralynn Walker
Contact: Vikram Bubber
(V25t@telus.net)